Becky Friesen
EDITOR’S NOTE: A church community is created when people gather together for the love of God. At the same time, Saint Philip’s is comprised of many people who represent different ages, life experiences, and world views.
The “In conversation…” series is one attempt to create possibilities for connection between the different people in our community. As varied as we all are, there are also similarities and mutual interests waiting to be discovered. And there is one thing we all share: a desire to know God and be in relationship with him.
This week’s conversation is with parishioner and volunteer Becky Friesen.
How long have you worshiped at Saint Philip’s?
Since the fall of 2017.
Where did you grow up?
I grew up in Wisconsin on a strawberry farm (that also had apples, blueberries, and raspberries). In the fall, we sold pumpkins, had a corn maze, a cafe, and fiddle music. It was magical.
What do you like about Tucson?
I love how laid back it is. It was a very easy transition moving here because people are so open and friendly.
Which service do you typically attend?
The 9:00am service.
Were you raised in a faith tradition?
I was. There was a bit of variety but I would say the majority of my experience was in the evangelical tradition.
How did you find your way to the Episcopal church?
Courtney and I lived in Boston the first few years we were married and while there we attended a Congregational church. That introduced us to liturgical services.
When we moved back to Minnesota, friends of ours attended an Episcopal church and invited us to join them. We took them up on their offer and became regular worshipers there.
What about Saint Philip’s appeals to you?
The very thoughtful people who work and attend here.
Can you elaborate on what you mean by “thoughtful?”
The first adjective that comes to mind is “caring.” That’s illustrated in the worship services, the sermons, and the conversations I have with people who attend church here.
How would you describe Saint Philip’s to someone unfamiliar with the parish?
Saint Philip’s is a church filled with caring people and a thriving Children, Youth, and Families Ministry (CYFM). The parish also pays attention to the environment, as well as social issues. For example, we forgave medical debt a few years ago and hosted a meeting with families separated at the border. But what stands out for me is that the whole person is considered. As much as the parish participates in the wider community, music and arts are also emphasized.
How are you involved in the parish?
I serve on the CYFM Commission. It’s a really a pleasure to do that. I work with some of my best friends and get to brainstorm and create together.
I’m also a choir mom. All three of our boys are in the choir and have participated in the UK Residencies. Traveling with other parents and choristers is one way to become really close. It’s a wonderful community within Saint Philip’s and I love being part of it.
Wednesday night Mosaic dinner and formation is another regular activity. I get to meet people from different parts of Saint Philip’s I probably wouldn’t meet otherwise.
What do you do professionally?
I’m a Research Scientist in the Department of Educational Psychology. I research a host of things but particularly equity and motivation in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics).
What’s something about your work that you particularly enjoy?
It’s very satisfying to know that the answers my research uncovers impact the students and their programs directly. I appreciate being part of something that makes a real difference.
How do you refresh yourself? What do you do for fun?
I spend time with the family. Watch movies. And if I’m not working on a Saturday, I love to read.
What do you like to read?
One of my favorite storylines is when somebody takes over a farm that is dying, turns it around, and makes it work. I love that—especially if the new owner farms in a sustainable way. It never gets old for me.
What’s one of your guiding principles?
Make the world a better place. That sounds so trite when I hear myself say it out loud. But I really do mean it.
At the start of each season, I reflect on my priorities and look at my “to do” list. I try to keep that principle in mind when I consider how to spend my time.
What’s something you’re proud of?
I’m really proud of our three boys.
What’s one of your super powers?
I think I’m good at letting people be who they are. We’re all complex and I try to approach people with curiosity and grace.
What have I not asked that you would like readers to know about?
The Parent Formation Group. Last week, there were about 40 parents involved.
We meet on Sundays after the 9:00am service. Chelsea and Tim Bayley have organized things this year so every week has a topic. The group is a wonderful way to talk about our faith, parenting challenges, get to know other families in church, connect with current friends, and meet new people, too. There are so many thoughtful, funny, and interesting people in the group!
What’s a dream you have?
I would love to have more land, grow vegetables in the desert, have chickens and a mini-cow.
What’s a fun fact about you?
I ran track and cross country in high school. It was a really wonderful experience for me.
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